For productive, rewarding (challenging) conversations, try observing this little rule. Warning: It only sounds simple!
Each party to the conversation holds themselves and the other(s) to be 100% responsible for what they do and for what they feel.
Among other things, this rule vetoes my holding someone else responsible for ...
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I imagine there's a scale that applies to all of us. It measures our tolerance to what I like to call 'exposure'.
In mountain climbing, the higher the degree of exposure, the more challenging and dangerous our route is. That's mainly a scale of physical exposure, but with some strong psychological ...
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I believe I spent years barking up the wrong tree on this question, imagining that there must be a definitive answer that I could learn so that I could put it down on paper or tell it to you – or myself!
Of course I can give you all sorts of ...
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'Attention feeds' – This is how Roberto Assagioli describes a fundamental psychological law.
Assagioli was the founder of Psychosythesis, an approach to counselling and psychotherapy. This law says that paying attention to something is like watering a plant – what we're watering tends to grow: If it's a worry, or a ...
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